I left on much needed spring vacation in the start of May, and while we were away I asked my girlfriend to be my wife. If you didn’t hear about it, fear not, I kept it in very deep confidentiality, for many reasons, and I don’t regret that move one bit. I’ve always been a private person (my parents hated that in me) and still, as I always have, I try to protect certain things with the secrecy of a 007 plot! As a result my proposal plan worked nearly flawlessly… It was beautiful, it was emotional but above all else it was our moment, yeah only ours to stand together and choose a common path for life that we will decide on together.
As we were shuffling through the line in the airport on our trip home, we laughingly looked at each other and said “Whoa… this time it’s us” as if to say that up to that point we were watching the “movie of life” where it was only our friends and family that got engaged and married, but now it was now us in the lead roles, and we were a little bit shocked to be living in that moment.
Days later I sat on the couch in a very introspective mindset and began thinking about how well it had gone, and how happy we both were, but I also took the journey back through twisted labyrinth of years and decisions that brought me to this place; the one in life where a choice like this would for me be at all a possibility. I sat amazed at the ground that I have covered, the crazy amount of time that has passed, the things of the past that seemed so important and devastating once that now seem so trivial, and how so many the times of my life that seem so recent really happened decades ago.
I thought about my first grade crush Brook Mercer (the little red haired girl) and my first kiss Karen Rufner (in the back of a school bus); I remembered my first real love (and first heartbreak) Margaret Carroll and eventually I thought of most of the rest of my bigger mistakes… but this time remembering them didn’t haunt me. Right there, on my couch, I came to that amazing moment where I had arrived at the realization that I wasn’t sad or angry at any of the women of my past any longer… I was in fact happy that they had chosen something other than our relationship as their priority and had moved on. I was happy mainly because they gave me a gift in the process: they forced me to move on too, and for that I am grateful.
Let’s understand something: I am “older” by definition to be getting married (for the first time anyhow) and many people were surprised to hear not only that I had made this commitment, but also that I was willing to do it at all! I have for years been accused (falsely) of being afraid of commitment, not true, what I was afraid of was committing to someone who didn’t deserve me doing so. I love Erika and I know that she is, in fact, the woman that God intended me to meet and share this earth with. She is perfect for me and I hope to drive her up the wall of a very, very long time. :)
The years have been kind to lead me here to her and I thank God for that, and I have seen enough to know many things but I still can’t say with any confidence that “I know what I want”… what I do know from the lessons of the past is: “I know full well what I don’t want”, and I have found my soul mate as a result!
that was very inspirational and touching! I wish you both the best of luck always!
This is Awesome
Eric- that is absolutely beautiful!! So heartfelt- and true Eric fashion. So happy for the both of you- sounds like a wonderful relationship. Best of luck to you both and hope many happy trails are ahead of you :)
So happy for the both of you wish you a lifetime of happiness, It is a cherished life when one finds their true love. I found it 13 years ago and nothing means more to me than him and my family. So God bless you both...
God Bless You Both!
I could not be happier for you both! I wish you every happiness. I'm glad you waited for where God would lead.
I'm proud of you!
Eric I wish you and Erika many, many years of happiness together. It's so wonderful when you find that special someone who makes you feel complete. I'm sure your folks are smiling right now as you travel down the next path ahead. Congratulations and I pray your love for one another grows stronger every day.
YOU ALWAYS BRING ME HERE...
Oh, sweet Eric...
Thank you for this post. Private? Not so sure about that one- ha! ...But able to keep a secret? Pretty darned good, Bond!! I love you so easily and naturally. We are best friends and soul mates. But you are that way with so many people. The best part:
I will love you beyond any breath I can take last. Our love is rare...and kind...and REAL.
Thank you Victor and Adele for this amazing man to cherish ~ forever!