Sorry, but I'm all about the old school mentality that you should have to defend yourself as a kid. You know, if a bully is picking on you everyday at school, instead of running to the teacher, or crying to mom and dad and meeting with the parents, the kid should punch the bullies lights out, or at least try to!
I was born in 1986 (I know real old school..that's a joke) but we were always raised to defend ourselves. Not only from my father, but my mom was the same way! No one was to pick on you, No one! I feel like a lot of kids my age were raised similar, especially when I lived in West Virginia, those boys were raised country tough!
Somewhere along the line, America some how, some way, lost it's guts, and started raising their kids to be sissies. I know some people may get angry, and hate me for saying this, but I feel strong on this topic. It is one thing to be the jerk, no that's not right, but if your the one getting picked on, and you never stand up for yourself, then you will be walked on your whole life! Even those kids that are taught, you should tell the teacher, or go to the bullies parents to have them stop. If you ask me, those kids are in for it worse!
Think about it. Your kid is getting picked on by a bully, and he or she runs and tell the teacher, or the bullies parents, what do you think is going to happen? The bully is going to become friends with your kid, or just stop picking on them? Of course not! They're a bully! Bullies are not good kids, they thrive on negative attention, being cool, and getting into trouble, that's why they're bullies! Telling on them will only make matter worse!
To tell on someone shows a sign of weakness in the case of bullying. There are times to go to a teacher and times not to. For example, a time to go to a teacher would be, if a child is gay, or questioning who they are, and are taking abuse from another student. Coming out for a kid, or anyone for that matter, is a very difficult thing to do. I would imagine that is something you want to keep private till your ready. A teacher will be able to give you advice, and keep your secret. Sexual harassment is another great example of when to go explain your situation.
However; look at the recent case of this young student Casey. Casey is a bigger kid, who has been getting bullied his whole life. In fact, it had gotten so bad, that I guess the bullies brought their camera into school to video tape them picking on Casey. Taunting him, punching him in the face in front of two girls, and bouncing around attempting to intimidate this young man. What happens next is what I feel was the best move for Casey to make. See for yourself:
Know who isn't going to be picking on Casey anymore? Exactly! Now the school has suspended the bully....AND Casey! What on Earth did Casey do wrong!?! To me, it appears that Casey was walking to class. when this little s**t, with too much confidence and his moronic group of friends approached him. The clocked Casey twice in the jaw,and then in the stomach.
I guess the "correct" thing to do in this situation, would be to take the beating, cry in front of fellow class mates, have the risk of a black eye and chipped teeth, then run and tell the principle? Come on! When I see on TV that there is a rise in bullying, and it's an epidemic, this is the exact reason! Because there are little A**holes, who go around, picking on kids, and instead of getting what they deserve, the kid who is getting picked on, tells a teacher, and makes things worse for themselves.
Bullying is on the rise because kids have been taught not to fight back! Listen, I can agree, that fighting isn't the answer. Hell, when I was in 9th grade, I was 5'5 and weighed about 100 lbs. I was picked on by the same four guys everyday. In fact, the day my grand mom died, these four guys held me down in the locker room, and hit me in the leg with a giant plastic pipe. The bruised my leg and walked away laughing. Know what I did? I sure as hell didn't run to the teacher and tell, instead, I went to the gym, started working out, running everyday.
That little 5'5 100 lbs. version of me, jumped up to around 5'9 160 lbs. of solid muscle, that was no longer afraid of these guys, and these four guys, were now afraid to come after me. Not only did these kids back off, it built confidence, it made me see, I was more longer that little guy that was vulnerable, but a man who stood up for himself.
I thank both of my parents for that gift as well. See, my parents both have that old school mentality as well, because that day those kids held me down and crushed my leg, I went home and cried, showed them my leg, and what they did. There response? Why didn't I fight back? My father growing up was 5"11, considered short for his class, but his entire school was terrified of him. He took no s**t, and never let anyone tell him he wasn't good enough, and he would be damned if his kids lived their lives differently.
If I were to guess correctly, my father knew how good life was to him when he was in High School, he was popular, he was great at football, in fact he had a full ride scholarship to Syracuse as a running back, but more importantly he had character, character he built on his own, it made him a man. He didn't need some teacher or guidance consular to convince him he was a man, he knew he was.
That old school mentality that was taught to my brother and I helped us grow into what we are today. In high school, I found myself 2 state runner up championships in wrestling. I was offered scholarships and invitations to wrestle in Australia! I went to college, excelled in Broadcasting, coming out with Three degrees and a Minor. My brother went into the Air Force and is still there today defending our country.
I think kids raised with this, "go tell a teacher or a parent" philosophy makes kids weak. In fact, I know it does, because I can pin point the individuals who were raised that way today! Toughen up America! Go back to your roots, we are getting soft!
I agree with you, we are raising a nation of sissies! Bullies should be stood up to and beaten down. Running to an adult always makes things worse.
I HEARD YOU THIS MORNING AS I WAS DRIVING MY SCHOOL VAN WITH MY PASSENGERS TO SCHOOL. MY SON WAS BULLIED RIGHT FROM KINDEGARTEN. IT GOT WORSE NO MATTER HOW MANY TIMES I WENT TO THE SCHOOL OR HE WENT TO A TEACHER. BY THE TIME HE WAS IN SIXTH GRADE AND I HAD BEEN INTO THE PRINCIPAL THREE TIMES IN THE SAME WEEK HE TOOK MATTERS INTO HIS OWN HANDS. THE BULLY HAD BEEN SENT TO DETENTION SO THREE OF HIS BUDDIES WENT AFTER MY SON. THEY GOT REPRIMANDED BY THE SCHOOL SO FIVE REPLACED THEM. I WAS ASKED WHAT MY SON WAS DOING TO PROVOKE IT! MY SON DECIDED HE WAS NOT TAKING IT ANYMORE. HE SAID HE WOULDN'T TELL ME ABOUT FURTHER PROBLEMS. STILL SMALL BUT PISSED HE HANDLELED IT HIS WAY BY TAKING THEM ALL ON WITH HIS FISTS AND USING THE SAME TYPE OF DISGUSTING LANGUAGE THEY USED. HE GOT BEAT BUT THEY THOUGHT TWICE ABOUT BULLYING HIM AGAIN BECAUSE HE ATTRACTED ENOUGH ATTENTION FROM THE OTHER STUDENTS BY FIGHTING BACK THAT OTHERS STARTED TO FIGHT BACK TOO. THAT SUMMER HE GREW SIX INCHES AND GAINED THIRTY POUNDS. BETWEEN THAT AND TELLING THE BULLIES HE DIDN'T CARE IF HE GOT IN TROUBLE FOR FIGHTING BACK HE WASN'T TAKING THEIR F**KING S**T ANYMORE. FROM THEN ON HE LAUGHED IN THEIR FACES SMILED TOOK THE THREE PUNCHES THE SCHOOL (UNOFFICIALLY) SAID HAD TO BE TAKEN BEFORE HE WAS ALLOWED TO FIGHT BACK AND THEN LAID THEM TO THE FLOOR. HE EVEN HAD TO STAB ONE IN THE HAND WITH A PENCIL TO MAKE HIS POINT OF BEING LEFT ALONE. MY SON WAS TAGGED BY THE SCHOOL AS THE ONE WITH THE PROBLEMS BECAUSE THE BULLIES WERE SMARTER STUDENTS AND ATHLETES. THEY CONTINUED TO BULLY OTHERS BUT KNEW IF THEY WENT AFTER MY SON THEY WOULD GET AS GOOD, IF NOT BETTER THAN THEY GAVE. THEY FINALLY GAVE UP BULLYING HIM. BUT NOT UNTIL HIS SECOND YEAR OF HIGH SHOOL.